A Look Back at 2014

It’s been a long year…. full of good, full of change, and full of learning experiences. The turbulent weather seemed to match the tone of life. Unpredictable, overwhelming, exciting and scary. Life has sped up so much these last few years, with big shifts in my life coming faster and faster. Looking back reminds me how much we really did and how many really good times we had, amid the chaos of lose and change.

January:

I’m not huge on parties, so when it came to planning our New Year’s Eve I knew I wanted to do something special but different. We decided to make dinner at home together, then head Downtown to the Joe Louis Arena in Detroit to ring in the new year with the Zac Brown Band. With so many instruments and high quality musicians on stage, how can you go wrong? I would definitely put this at the top of my favorite live shows list. It was an intimate and thrilling way to count down to 2014.

Ringing in the New Year with the Zac Brown Band at Joe Louis Arena in Detroit.
Ringing in the New Year with the Zac Brown Band at Joe Louis Arena in Detroit.

Last winter was cold. I don’t have to remind you about our fantastically freezing Polar Vortex. There was something exciting about how extreme the weather was, and how life just had to slow down and shift to accommodate it. With that said, I’m glad we aren’t pushing through negative degree weather and heavy snow this year! I’m not as sure on my feet with a basketball belly under my coat, you know what I mean?

Crazy deep Polar Vortex snow
Crazy deep Polar Vortex snow

February:

By February we had settled in to the deep snow and cozy days inside (binge watching shows on Netflix, snacking and cuddling our pup of course). My mom comes to town every February, which I always love and look forward to. We decided to take her on an adventure this year and drive up north to Traverse City for a few days to show her our favorite parts of the state. Little did we know, I was already expecting for the first time…. 

Mom's Visit Feb 2014
Mom’s Visit Feb 2014
Traverse City with mom Feb 2014
Traverse City with mom Feb 2014

March:

I loved my work, but was ready for a change. In March I got a new start at a smaller digital company in Ann Arbor and dove in to the new work. It was scary starting a new job, with an hour commute, right as I found out I was pregnant, but I knew it was an opportunity I couldn’t pass up. Brian, the loving husband he is, knew that I was ready to get back to Ann Arbor (one step closer to a feeling of home), and we started our plans to move.

April:

After the long cold months of winter, we were eager to head home to California in April. Excited that we would be 12 weeks along while we were there, we made plans to announce the pregnancy in person to my friends and family. It was to be a trip full of celebrations and love with my sister’s baby shower and my best friend’s bachelorette. There was so much joy in the first half of the trip… only to be balanced by the heartbreaking end of our trip and our first pregnancy.

Napa bachelorette for the soon to be Mrs. April 2014
Napa bachelorette for the soon to be Mrs. April 2014

May:

We returned to Michigan after the miscarriage and went into hibernation. I can’t imagine a better team I’d rather have by my side than Brian and Brinkley. May was a blur… an adjustment to life without the little baby in my belly. Learning to see life through a new lens.

Our little family... minus the one we were expecting.
Our little family… minus the one we were expecting.

June:

As fast as loss can come on and sweep the rug right out from under you, love and abundance can swoop right back in and fill the dark spaces lifting you right back up. In early June we were shocked and elated to learn we are once again expecting a sweet little baby. My best friend got married, and though it was a planned elopement and I wasn’t able to attend in person, I was overjoyed for her and her new husband. To top it all off, the end of June brought the arrival of sweet, sweet little Stella Ray. My sister gave us one of the best gifts we could ever receive and we’ve spent the rest of 2014 just loving on her and watching this adorable little bundle of happiness grow!

Our niece, Stella Ray born June 2014
Our niece, Stella Ray born June 2014

July:

Ann Arbor here we come!! July 1st we moved into our new Ann Arbor apartment. It’s been a tough transition, but a good one. There are things we miss about life in Royal Oak, but there are many things we love about Ann Arbor too (including the many summertime festivities that we were able to take part in, like Sonic Lunch, Art Fair, and Summer Fest).

Brinkley helping us pack. Moved to Ann Arbor July 1st 2014!
Brinkley helping us pack. Moved to Ann Arbor July 1st 2014!

We celebrated our first anniversary on July 21st with a trip back up north, you guessed it, to Traverse City! What can I say? We love it up there. We had big plans to spend a few days in Traverse City and then to head to Mackinac City to take the ferry over to Mackinac Island for our romantic anniversary. That plan was thwarted by another pregnancy scare and a day in the ER. So, instead of gallivanting around a historic island, we took it easy and spent the rest of the weekend with good friends, healing and waiting to see if we would get to keep our little one. Thank G-d for good friends and for things turning out alright.

Year 1 of marriage in the books. I can't wait to see how our lives have changed by the end of year 2.
Year 1 of marriage in the books. I can’t wait to see how our lives have changed by the end of year 2.

August-September:

We headed back to California again for my cousins beautiful Santa Barbara wedding. We spent a week taking in the sunshine and loving on little Stella Ray, and another week making the rounds with family and friends in the Bay Area. It was a great trip slightly tainted by our nerves, but we made it home all in one piece, the bun still baking in my oven. Whew.

October:

I LOVE MICHIGAN FALL. I know, what comes after isn’t so hot (pun intended), but I can’t help but love everything about the crisp, sunny days of fall. My college roommate, Anne, came to visit us and we showed her some of the best fall has to offer. After asking around we decided to go apple picking at Spicer’s Orchard in Fenton. The drive wasn’t bad from Ann Arbor, and it was a great experience! We will definitely be heading back next year. The tractor ride through the orchard, bright blue sky, delicious apples, cider and donuts are all part of what makes fall here so special. We would definitely recommend Spicer’s for families looking for a day of fall fun. We can’t wait to go back with little ones someday.

Apple picking at Spicer's Orchard, Fall 2014
Apple picking at Spicer’s Orchard, Fall 2014

November:

The gorgeous days of fall football and apple picking quickly shift to grey skies… thank goodness for warm family holidays like Thanksgiving to help get us through. We haven’t had much snow this year, but we got plenty during our interstate drive from Michigan to New Jersey for Thanksgiving weekend. Brian is a master driver, and I’m glad he is cause I would have been a whimpering fool if I had to drive!

We spent the weekend with my cousins in New Jersey, playing with her little ones and reminiscing about our extended family. We even got in a day in Manhattan to check out the 9/11 Memorial Museum. I love exploring with Brian, but I don’t recommend traveling when you are pregnant. Maybe it’s just me, but long drives and long days trekking through cities are better enjoyed without worrying about pregnancy troubles (like swollen feet and fatigue). I know many women are able to go hard during pregnancy, but for me it felt like a little too much action. Still, we had a great time. 🙂

Snowy drive to New Jersey for Thanksgiving
Snowy drive to New Jersey for Thanksgiving

December:

My dad came to visit! I love spending time with my dad. He’s great to adventure with and he has a gung ho attitude when it comes to projects. We spent the weekend hanging out, clearing out the baby’s room/closet and working to prep the nursery for when the little one (hopefully!) arrives. There is nothing better than time with family, and we have had so much of it this year, despite long distances and tough times. It’s really been a journey. I feel like I’ve grown and changed more than ever this year (easy to say when you’ve been pregnant most of the year, but I mean it figuratively as well).

We truly can’t wait to see what 2015 brings. Hopefully it’s tons and tons of happy times and snuggles with our sweet baby girl. Cheers to the new year! 

Baby Girl Lubetsky arriving February 2015!  Cheers to the New Year!
Baby Girl Lubetsky arriving February 2015!

April (Bridal) Showers 2013

Last year was one busy year. So busy that I hardly had a chance to share about all of our wedding festivities and preparation. Thinking back on happy memories is a great way to lift ones spirits, so I thought I’d begin the process of looking back and sharing our wedding journey :-).

We started with an engagement BBQ party hosted by my parents, and then another joint engagement party hosted by Brian’s parents celebrating his sister’s and our engagement. The coolest part: Brian’s parent rented an ice cream truck for the engagement party! We were so caught up in the excitement that I never got a single picture of the fun. If you are looking for engagement party ideas, I highly recommend a summer party with an ice cream truck, it was a hit!

California Shower

Brian and I went on our first date April 6th, 2010. Three years later, on April 6th 2013 my best friend Micah and a close family friend hosted my first of 3 wedding showers. It was a gorgeous, sunny, California day. Sitting out in the bright mid-day sunshine, sipping on mimosas, surrounded by women I love, we celebrated our love and future! My favorite part: copious sunshine and my closest friends 🙂

MicahSarah_ReadySetSarahBlog
Me and one of the beautiful hostesses, my bestie Micah!
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Bridesmaids shot!
My mom with my best friends mom. They're the cutest.
My mom with my best friend’s mom. They’re the cutest.

Michigan Shower

A little later in April my mother-law’s friends got together to throw us another lovely wedding shower! They rented a space at a golf course and hosted a lovely lunch. Though we got some actual April showers that day, it was a really nice gathering and we were really grateful to have the chance to celebrate with Brian’s family. My favorite part? The AMAZING gluten-free cakes from Rumi’s Passion Gluten-Free Bakery in Plymouth Michigan. The hostesses were so thoughtful and even picked up some of Rumi’s Passion’s gluten-free dinner rolls for me to have with our lunch. I love this bakery, it is a fully gluten-free bakery with a ton of sweet and savory specialties.

My friends at the Michigan Shower.
My work friends at the Michigan Shower.
My in-laws. I <3 them.
My in-laws. I ❤ them.
Gluten-Free Carrot Cake from Rumi's Passion Bakery.
Gluten-Free Carrot Cake from Rumi’s Passion Bakery.
Gluten Free Chocolate Cake from Rumi's Passion Bakery.
Gluten Free Chocolate Cake from Rumi’s Passion Bakery.

 

Work Wedding Shower Tea Party

At my old job I worked with an amazing group of women who became great friends (and luckily, I think this will be true for my new job as well). These lovely women put together an adorable tea party themed bridal shower at the office and I was happy as can be. One of my colleagues formerly worked at a home for aging nuns. There she met many older nuns who have a LARGE collection of assorted tea cups and saucers, and they were kind enough to loan them to her for the party. Each cup was unique and had that feminine delicate prettiness that makes tea parties so adorable. It was really a special day, I felt so loved and cared for with my work family around me, I will always be grateful!

Tea party gluten-free cupcakes!
Tea party gluten-free cucumber sandwiches and gluten-free cupcakes!
One of the many pretty tea cup sets loaned by the nuns.
One of the many pretty tea-cup sets loaned by the nuns.

Garden Shower/Bachelorette!

At the beginning of June, Brian and his best friends headed up north to a rented home on Torch lake for a weekend of Bachelor party debauchery. To keep my mind of things, and as a loving gesture, one of my bridesmaids (the Best Man’s wife and amazing hostess-with-the-mostess, Jes) hosted a garden shower/bachelorette celebration that was absolutely divine! Jes has incredible taste and throws great parties. She pays attention to every detail and it always comes out beautifully. We started the afternoon with a backyard brunch. We all had a fair share of  delicious (and strong) champagne punch, and were soon dancing away! We ended the night out on the town. We didn’t get into too much trouble though ;-).

The garden party settings.
The garden party settings.
Beautiful table setting.
Beautiful table setting.
The spread, it was all delicious.
The spread, it was all delicious.

 

Lox (smoked Salmon) for the bagels.
Lox (smoked Salmon) for the bagels.
Cucumber appetizers.
Cucumber appetizers.
Gorgeous, gigantic home grown peonies.
Gorgeous, gigantic home grown peonies.
My favorite flowers. Pretty, pretty peonies!
My favorite flowers. Pretty, pretty peonies!

 

The lovely hostess
The lovely hostess
Ladies night on the town.
Ladies night on the town.

A Brides Bane: #1 thing to not say to a bride

Imagine if a man were coordinating a large event- he may tussle with difficult vendors, be assertive when his decisions or requests are undermined or ignored by others, he may even find himself frustrated when something he’s worked hard on is going awry.

Now, switch out “large event” for “wedding”.

Wedding planning is tough business, especially for someone tossed into it with no experience with event planning, another full-time job, etc. Not to complain, I am so happy to have this opportunity, but there are things about being a “Bride” that have been making me very uneasy.

In the imagery above I bet you never once thought of the event planning man as a “Bridezilla!” or rolled your eyes at the thought of him being assertive while getting things done. So why is it okay for vendors and salespeople, friends and family to roll our collective eyes and condescend to young women who are doing the same thing?

Emotions certainly run high in the wedding planning process- everyone’s emotions, not just the bride. But just like the old concepts of hysteria and female emotional instability, the patronizing and condescending view of a young woman as a bridezilla is just plain f-ed up.

Women who are leaders are often perceived as bitchy or bossy when their behavior is similar to that of their male counterparts. Women who assert themselves to get things done or to get what they want or need are painted just as negatively. Now, I know there are some women who behave as entitled and in a selfish manner during their wedding planning process, but what if some of those women are just sick of being leached of cash and time by every other freaking vendor and sales person who make up the  wedding industry today? Wouldn’t you start to get an attitude if people rolled their eyes and said “…brides!” under their breath when you are simply trying to get your voice/request heard?

The farther I get into this wedding planning process, the more irritated I have become with one simple phrase. What is it? The placating, patronizing mantra that you will hear over and over and over and over throughout your entire wedding planning saga-

“Just try and relax! Every thing is going to be fine/beautiful/perfect!”

Really? Really? Relax? You mean after a vendor has failed to send me the photos and prices he promised to email me 4 months ago and I email to politely re-request them for the 4th time, the real problem is that I need to RELAX???

You mean that after spending all of my extra time working on wedding details, and negotiating with unruly vendors, and trying to herd the wild cats we like to call family, the first thing people say when I tell them about an issue that needs to be fixed is that I need to relax!?!?

Please, try to tell me that wouldn’t make you just a little upset.

Next time you are talking with a bride, either as a friend, salesperson, family member ,or coworker, if she seems frustrated or overwhelmed, or however she is feeling, don’t tell her to relax. Tell her to keep kicking ass and taking names cause she is doing great. Maybe even listen to what she says and see how you can help her be heard by whoever she is trying to get to listen. That would do a world of wonders that telling her to “relax” will never do.

All that Glitters

Must have-Bridal Shower Brunches in Blush, Coral, and Champaign Gold

With all of the responsibility and choice making that comes with planning a wedding (no matter how big or small), you might think I’d be glad the bridal shower is something out of my hands…. alas, it has become my obsession.

I just can’t seem to get enough of the über feminine, sparkling world of the bridal shower. Whether a tea party motif with stiff collars and pearls, or a colorful “new years eve gone glitter and rose on a sunday morning,” I’m in love and it feels so good.

The color scheme of my heart’s desire. (Image from an endless tumblr stream of reposts… if it’s yours please let me know!)

My heart is particularly happy when multiple of my favorite pretty-girl perks are combined. Here’s just a little taste-

I’m seeing gold (Image via Marcus Design, Inc. )
Pink and Gold Table Setting (image via 100 Layer Cake Blog)
Tea Party Bridal Shower (image via Martha Stewart Weddings)
With a ribbon on top. It’s all about the ribbons. Particularly wide pink or wide black ribbons. (image via Tumblr unknown)
Glamorous cake (Image via Pink Peach Cakes)
Blush, coral and white paper streamers. And darling we must have the Champaign!
(Image via Martha Stewart Weddings)

Really, the Champaign is a must. Pink Champaign, Champaign with berries, mimosas bubbling with sparkling happiness and morning sunshine.

I can’t wait to plan one of these lady-fests one day. Oh unsuspecting bride, you will be thrilled 🙂

xoxo, Sarah

Wedding Planning at the Airport

I’m headed to Atlanta for the week for what I hope will be an awesome health communication conference. Exciting right?

After nearly missing my flight due to takeoff time confusion (you mean my flight is at noon? Not 2pm? Crap!!!) and a harrowing drive from Royal Oak to DTW; I made it to my seat just in time to learn the plane was broken. Sad. face. Sarah.

We sat patiently on the plane as our takeoff went from 12pm to 1:30, then from 1:30 to 3pm… They finally let us off to get food only to ask us to get back on the plane to grab our stuff and head to the other side of the airport. And now, as I wait for a 5pm flight to Atlanta what else should I do but plan my wedding?

Thank you Delta. Thanks.

So- here are some inspiration boards I have been piecing together with Picstitch using images I have found on Pinterest. Here is a link to my pinterest board where you can find links to all of the image sources (these are not my images).

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen (Images from multiple sources, see Pinterest here)

I really want a warm feel for the wedding, classy but not uptight. We chose a Wtoo bridesmaid dress Macadamia (tan/champaign colored) for my ladies, which means the men will be in rich navy blue suits instead of tan linen as Brian had hoped…. But I think it looks fabulous!

Since more than half of our guests will be coming from out-of-state (the wedding is in Berkeley, CA where I’m, from Brian’s from Michigan) I want to draw in a few little nods to our home states. One of the ideas I’ve had for this is to find vintage travel postcards for Michigan and California cities to use in place of table numbers. Brian says if we do this the bridal party is sitting at “Detroit“. I’m down with that.

Greetings from California- Image from here
Greetings from Detroit (Image from here)

My mother and I both love cobalt blue glass. I thought it would be cool to make our centerpieces from little clusters of different size and shaped blue glass containers (bottles, vases, pitchers, jars), and to fill them with fluffy flowers like peonies and vintage roses in white, pale yellow and pale orange. Like this-

Potential table settings for the wedding (Images via Pinterest)

Oh look, now the sign says 6pm takeoff. I’ll be done planning before I reach Atlanta at this pace! Ok, I was nearly done already, but you’ve got to look for silver linings right? Thank goodness for iPhones and charging stations.

I’m really liking how the blues, yellows, golds, oranges and tans are all coming together. It will all go nicely with my dress which we found when my mom was in town last week! It’s a stunner if I might say so myself… and it is much more dramatic than I ever would have thought I’d choose. Since I can’t show off the dress, I’ll just share a few pics from the dress shopping adventure.

My dress shopping crew! Mom, Bride (me with raccoon eyes), Bridesmaid Teja (Image by Ready Set Sarah)

I ended up falling in love with the first dress I pulled off the rack and tried on a The Wedding Shoppe on Woodward. It was meant to be! The consultant, Natalie, at the Wedding Shoppe was awesome. I would definitely recommend her if you are looking for a wedding dress in the Detroit area. When we went back to take pictures of the dress the next day I noticed the adorable sign welcoming the brides with appointments! I’m the first one on the list!

The welcome sign for ladies with appointments at the shop. (Image by Ready.Set.Sarah)

Update- I finally made it to my hotel in Atlanta at 10pm… that’s a 12 hour travel day for what should have been a 2 hour flight. I could have driven here at that rate and seen a whole lot more of the country!

12 hours and 13 minutes drive from Detroit to Atlanta? I’ll take it (Image by Ready.Set.Sarah)